family personal

The benefits of going down the memory lane

We are what we remember….

Erik Pevernagie

The human mind is funny. It makes us recall some moments or memories from the past that suddenly has a huge impact in our present life. If you think a bit deeper, it does make some sense in a strange way.

My grandmother….at her natural best!!

Since I was born until I was 12 or 13 years old, my grandmother (‘Thathi’ as I call her in Tamil) did my upbringing for the most part of the time. My mother and father were busy working and had the parental responsibility to provide and manage the family.

Being the first grandchild in the family, I was my grandmother’s favorite one. While I was growing up, she took care of me in every possible way – she would take me around the city, make me meet her friends in the apartment we lived in, go to visit her sister etc. Her love for me and my brother was quite unconditional.

My grandmother was a strong, solid and independent woman – despite getting married at a very young age in those times (the early 1950s), she managed to adapt herself along with my grandfather when moving from a small town in the southern part of India (a small village in Palakkad district, Kerala) to a big city, Mumbai.

One of the characteristics of my grandmother that I have inherited is the confidence and courage to speak your mind or heart. It may be subjective to opinion or one’s perception, but it definitely played an important role in the decisions that I have taken in my life so far and continues to do so.

Uninhibited, social yet dominant and friendly – the best way to describe her in few words. She spread those warm vibes around new people very effortlessly. She was the eldest of her siblings and showered her motherly love and affection on each one of them – a rare quality in today’s world.

One thing that I can vouch for is her sharp mind – she would give any young person, a run for their brains, in solving those Sudoku puzzles – she was an all-round performer in many ways.

It’s been 4 years, 15 days today since she passed away. I miss her more than ever. Losing a loved one is always an irreplaceable loss. She taught so many things without really teaching and that’s what still stays with me.

Her legacy lives on.

cricket family personal

Decoding the ‘Kohli v/s Dhoni’ schools of thought

This is a special blog as I dedicate it to the people of India (including myself) who love cricket.

In India, we have a strong and an unapologetic fan following for cricket – we emotionally associate with the game and closely relate to them in our own lives.

I am a millennial, born and brought up in Mumbai – the land of the great Indian cricketer, Sachin Tendulkar. Cricket was part of my life – through my mother. She loved watching it since her own younger days and passed on that interest – to my brother.

I wasn’t a real fan of cricket until Indian Premier League (popularly known as IPL) that began in 2008 and then, I became one of the lucky ones to witness the historic win of the World Cup at Wankhede Stadium in Mumbai by India in 2011.

Why am I saying this? Well, this brings me to an important juncture in this blog.

Right from childhood to becoming a full-fledged ‘certified’ adult, we have grown, listening to opinions from the internal circle – family, close friends, relatives and the external circle – internet, social network, movies, news.

There’s no way to deny the fact that some of us have got a chance to pursue a career of our choice whereas a majority didn’t really have an option but to do what is right for the family.

Here’s a journey of a person – Mahendra Singh Dhoni ( a must-watch movie M.S. Dhoni – The Untold Story‘ based on his life, if you don’t know what I am talking about) goes about doing two jobs – one for his family (works as a ticketing supervisor at railway station) and one for his passion (cricket) and eventually with his dedication and commitment, becomes one of the most respected cricketers in India and across the world.

The other person in the context is Virat Kohli – he got an opportunity at an early age of his life to pursue his passion for cricket under efficient coaching and guidance system, which led him to become the world’s best batsman.

Since I got married in 2015, I developed a close bond with my mother-in-law and connected with her on a different level. The kind of warmth and positivity I felt with her was beautiful and it is a relationship that continues to grow.

My mother and my mother-in-law – both come from two different perspectives towards life – they have their own share of struggles, ups-and-downs. However, when it comes to family and responsibilities, they are the backbone in sustaining relationships and play an important role in my life.

So, be it is Kohli or Dhoni, my mother or my mother-in-law, there will always be these two different schools of thoughts to handle. Each one of them affects our lives in more ways than one and inspire us to achieve our goals and aspirations.